Shame and
frustration: "Every morning I promise myself that I will leave. In the
morning, when I wake up, I look in the mirror and I feel humiliated, devalued.
How can you not be able to control this? ". "I am ashamed to say that
I can not control the cigarette. I left and came back so many times that now I
prefer smoke secretly. Not even my family knows I smoke. "
Discomfort:
Often the smoker faces a crossroads from which it is difficult to escape. It is
pulling between desire (or need) to smoke and the certainty that disturbs
others. Just pausing to observe (and observed) to discover their discomfort.
Away the smoke as a ghost who scares or contort to extend your arm and so the
cigarette away from the table when the share with nonsmokers.
Slavery
and dependence: "We can not have a piece of paper wrapped snuff rule my
life." "I get to a place and the first thing I look for are ashtrays,
to place me near. Calculate how many times I will smoking and, based on that,
decide how long I will stay. " Sometimes, the level of dependence is so
high and so deep insecurity that one can not even fantasize about the
possibility of quitting. Far from being an act of freedom, smoking is something
you "do" to calm the addiction. Many people who come to ask for help
express this feeling ugly slavery. Most of his day is organized on the basis of
the cigarette pack: "If I have, if I buy, I will reach, where to take
them, if I have some time to go find ..." Where's the joy?
Guilt
and fear: These feelings affect mainly those over 40, aware that endanger their
health. Some try to "not knowing" the dangers to those who submit.
When proposing to leave, become aware of the amount and the time they have
smoked. This causes fear for the consequences and some guilt for neglecting
their health.
Impairment:
The smoker's self-esteem is diminished. To a lesser or greater degree, feel
that the cigarette manages his life. In fact, nicotine is that it becomes
dependent, and this dependence makes him feel weak and insecure devalued.
Thoughts:
do we think while we smoke
The
myths, beliefs and unconscious resistances are factors that make it more
difficult decision. Explain and question is a fundamental part of the
preparation for quitting.
Myths
and beliefs
Smoking
is an act of freedom: This is a common argument. Many smokers say: "My
decision is to smoke, and do not accept anyone telling me what I should or
should not do. Everyone does what he wants with his life. " This argument
falls apart as soon as you understand that smoking is an addiction. The
opposite of an act of freedom is dependence, a compulsion, an organic necessity
marked by addiction to nicotine.
I
like to smoke, smoking gives me pleasure is worth reflecting honestly, how many
of the twenty, thirty or forty cigarettes consumed in the day give pleasure?
You can also give pleasure to ride without tiring and breathe freely.
There
is nothing more pleasurable than smoking after a meal: By quitting, good meals
are enjoyed more because they recover the senses of taste and smell. Moreover,
it is no longer a concern annoy fellow with smoke.
Without
a butt I can not concentrate, my inspiration disappears: The lack of toxic and
better cerebral oxygenation increases the level of concentration and stamina to
work. You can do anything without smoking. And better.
The
cigarette with me in the highlights: But you always smokes in the best and
worst moments. Over time, those who think well end up laughing at your comment.
On leaving, they discover that all they can do better than when smoked, even
for physiological reasons. Sex is better after quitting because the fitness
improves. The meals are tastier because they recover the taste and smell.
Meetings with friends are longer because, having lower levels of intoxication,
you have more energy, less sleep and less decay.
